Happy July! It has been a-g-e-s I promised myself I will blog more frequently but life has been really fast for me, too fast if I must say, but thanks be to the Most High God, who has kept us this far.
The second half of 2019 is upon us now and I am still pumped as before. You should too. I mean anything is possible. So keep believing and work towards it.
In as much as I'm also trying out to figure out this life thingy, I receive request for mentorship weekly and it's so humbling to say the least.
But most people who reach out are girls, and it makes my heart swell with warmth.
I'm still struggling myself, I don't have all the answers but here are a list of things I do/rules I live by:
1. Always forgive yourself, you'll make tons of mistake in life, mistakes you wished you could have avoided. You'll bite your finger in regret and disappointment. It's fine, forgive yourself and don't look back.
2. Always bounce back, now you've made a mistake and don't dwell on it. Don't make up should haves and would haves in your head, bounce back from it. First step in bouncing back is having a deep discussion with God about it because #JesusBaby 😁
3. Surround yourself with people who have the same core values with you. Not just the same values oh, but the same core values. Also understand that some friendship ends. No matter how long it lasted. Be okay with that too.
4. It's fine if you have soooo many questions about everything, especially when you're facing disappointment. John the forerunner of Jesus Christ did, when he was in prison. The man who gladly proclaimed the coming of the Messiah began to doubt when he was in prison, but in all of that he directed all his questions to Jesus Christ and Jesus Christ answered and comforted his troubling mind. Always direct your troubling questions to God too.
5. Always ask for help, I honestly don't know how to ask for help. I suffer in silence and it's toxic. So if you feel anybody can help lighten your load, always reach out to them. Also, realize that networking and friendships are built on giving. Not only taking 
6. Work hard. Be consistent with what you do. Carve a niche for yourself in whatever thing your hands finds to do. Let people know you for a particular thing or service that you offer, interact with people who are experts and seek for advice on how to be one.
7. Learn to always speak your mind, for what you believe in. If you have a contrary opinion of something someone said, express your views and learn to communicate with people you do not agree with. You will learn how to dialogue better, this is a top skill, and unfortunately it is not taught in schools.
8. Know thyself. Know what you want out of life. Build a close relationship with yourself and know your strengths and weaknesses, of course you need people around you to tell you more about areas you may need to work on, but develop a close relationship with yourself first, at the end of the day all you have is You. Have a me time with yourself, spoil yourself with things that relaxes your mind. Set targets for yourself and when you accomplish it, gift yourself a gift. You are your greatest cheerleader baby, be your own person. You become a better friend/lover/sister/brother when you have a good relationship with yourself.
9. Go for it. No time is better than now. Do it afraid. See those aspirations you have are placed in your heart by God, and for him to have placed it there, he will equip you with all you need to carry it out. It is okay to be a little frightened, do it. Start small if you have to- your'e doing amazing sweetie and I am rooting for you.
10. Be close to your Parents, there is no achievement in my life or no milestone or no challenge I am facing that my Parents are not aware of, I am so blessed with them, Their Godly advice has set me on a straight path in life. Guess what? Anything I do without informing them or intentionally not letting them know has always ended up in regret for me. My Parents are my gods on earth. So blessed!
11. It is very okay to be an indoor person. Stop stressing. The right people will stick around you remember point 3.
12. Concerning Men, know what will work for you and stop comparing yourself with another person. Desire marriage and companionship but do not place your life on hold if it is not happening, remember good things takes time and it is okay to take your time too. Do not rush into marriage, and guess what? There is no rushing out. The person you will spend the rest of your life with will determine how far you will go, so be cautious about it. Most importantly, If a man loves you, you will know and if you have have to second guess it, he probably does not. It is okay too. There are tons of people who loves you so why stress over one who doesn't?
13. If you are in a relationship or married, be thankful to God and be the best version of a partner you can ever be. Be spontaneous, being predictable is boring. Buy gifts. Love more, with words and actions. Very important. Be very supportive too. I would have given more advice here but I have these ideas I will definitely do as a wife to the most a-m-a-z-i-n-g man ever and they're private so that's that! *huge grin*
14. Get a to do list journal, always fill it in the mornings or whatever time works best for you. Have a gratitude journal too, very helpful. Always documents important events in your life. There is this feature on gmail where you can schedule when to deliver emails so write letters to your older self and have it delivered to you at a later time.
15. This life na one so have blissful memories with people who really matter. Tell people you love them, if you do. Give warm hugs and smile often. Shake people firmly and look into their eyes while talking. Cry often. Get a mentor, they call it life coach these days. Make friends with older people, especially with people who you want to be like.
I wish you the very best Half-2 2019!!!! God bless you!
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